Your Ego Vs. Your Soul: Guest Post

I am thrilled to have my first guest post on the blog! Amanda’s post below is so relevant to some realizations I’ve been experiencing lately so it is such a gift to have her offer her words to all of you!

I am an avid reader of anything and everything I can get my hands on, but in the last year or so – pretty much since I decided to quit my “normal” job and become an entrepreneur – I’ve landed in the world of self-improvement books. As I surrounded myself with successful people that were living a lifestyle comparable to my goals, I was inundated with motivational and inspirational suggestions, including reading empowering, knowledge-inducing books.

I’ll be honest. I’m an intellectual, hands-on evidence-backed person. I had a hard time buying into the “woo woo” positive thinking, the Universe sends you what you put out, Law of Attraction stuff they were dishing out. But the more I immersed myself in those who were successful, the more I started to wonder if there was something to what they were saying, so I started trying to live that way myself.

Amazingly, I quickly realized that yes, there was something to this motivational mumbo jumbo. Whether it was seriously the Universe, attraction laws, or whatever, the fact was the more I tried to plan ahead, be optimistic, get up and show up, and look for the good in the world, the better I felt. There really is something to be said for working towards a goal in life rather than just existing day to day.

Along this journey, I ran into a book that truly helped me understand and put a lot of my daily life into perspective. A good friend of mine twisted my arm and made me read “Big Magic” by Elizabeth Gilbert. Actually, she made me download the audio book and LISTEN to it. Listening, rather than reading, was very important, she said. And, as she had never been wrong in giving me advice so far, even when I didn’t want to hear it, I did as she instructed.

The book was really interesting to me, as a writer, and I totally understood why she said listen, and I suggest if you go buy the book you get the audio version, too. However, between all of her wonderful stories and advice, the part that stands out the most was when she talked about your ego versus your soul. I needed to hear it and I needed her to shout it, so I listened to it over and over, louder and louder each time.

You see, I’ve got a mighty big ego that I didn’t know I had. I thought I was humble and all that, but it turns out I’ve got a lot of work to do.

Apparently, it’s your ego that causes all of the stresses in your life. Who knew? Before you shake your head and disagree with me, hear me out.

  • You post on social media and no one, or just a few people, respond. You’re bummed, sad, depressed, thinking you are no good at what you’re doing. You start to wonder if you should just give up and go do something else. Because your ego was hurt. Check. That’s me.
  • Someone disagrees with you, on whatever topic and for whatever reason, and you want to lash out and tell them they are wrong and you are right. It’s imperative that they understand why they are so wrong – it could even change the world! But that’s just your ego talking – your ego saying that what you have to say might make a difference, and when they don’t listen, it’s your ego feeling the strain, and when they do listen, it’s your ego that feels the buzz and blows up like a balloon. Check. Totally me.
  • Your boss, spouse, relative, friend, or anyone gives you constructive criticism and you defend your reason for why you did what you did instead of listening to their critique, absorbing it, thanking them for their thoughts, and then reflecting yourself later. Your ego was hurt because someone criticized you. Check. How can they criticize me when I work so hard to be the best version of me in the first place?

Do any of these situations sound familiar? They did to me, too.

Now put them in another perspective. Did they hurt your soul?

Your soul doesn’t care about what other people think about you. Your soul isn’t going to be injured if someone criticizes you or disagrees with you. Your soul doesn’t care if you get likes and follows on social media. Your soul simply focuses on right and wrong – more specifically, what YOU are doing that is right or wrong.

And when you focus on what your SOUL wants, you can block out all of the ego-draining things in life. There’s a reason that the good things are “soul deep,” “soul-pleasing,” and “happy to the soul.” When your soul is content, things are right in your world. All of those ego-damaging words and actions from other people simply roll off of your shoulder.

Bruised egos result in so much friction in the world. Wars have been started because of damaged egos. I’m not talking about abusive situations. Those are soul-damaging and you have to work hard to get past them. I’m talking about a perfect stranger’s cutting words causing you sleepless nights. I’m talking about your neighbor’s fancy new car that you wanted stressing you out because you can’t pay your bills right now. I’m talking about that someone who wanted to help you improve but offered you constructive criticism and the way you reacted to them.

Yet, peaceful souls have been responsible for so much good. Ghandi, Mother Teresa, Martin Luther King, Jr., all were troubled about the state of the world, but they used their peaceful souls to help make a difference, putting aside their egos for the good of others. The difference is huge: they responded to criticism, negativity, hurt and hate, instead of reacting.

Get the difference? Your ego reacts, your soul responds. You take time to internalize what was said and the best course of action that will be for the best with the least negative consequences, and you respond in kind.

In the end, only kindness matters.

So think about this when you go out into your interactions today, tomorrow, forever. Is your stress, hurt feelings, anger, or other negative emotion due to damage to your soul or your ego? The only one that matters is the damage to your soul, and only you can really do that or let that happen.

Let your ego go, and watch your stress go out the window with it. Respond instead of reacting. Give it a try, like I did with the self-help woo woo stuff I didn’t believe in for so long. You just don’t know if there may actually be something to it until you do it.

Drop me a line at www.beautifullymadelife.net and let me know when you differentiated between your ego and your soul and if it made a difference in the outcome. You may just inspire me, too!

About Amanda:
Amanda lives with her family, two dogs, and three cats in the middle of Florida in a town where you have to drive two hours to do anything fun. Instead of daily excitement, she writes creatively for enjoyment and non-fiction to pay the bills. To make up for living in the middle of nowhere, she travels a lot. You can find out about her travels through her inspirational, motivational, and empowering blog, Beautifully Made Life, and follow her on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Pinterest.

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A Beginner’s Guide To Journaling

As we head into a new year, we may begin to think of new habits we’d like to begin or put into practice. It seems this time of year motivates me to look at my current habits and examine what I may want to cut down on, and what I may want to invest more time doing. I’ve reflected and realized that I’d like to cut down on my social media time and invest more time reading. 

Years ago I began intentionally journaling more frequently in an attempt to help process thoughts and emotions. This eventually became a habit that I truly enjoy and I use journaling as a regular practice as well as a tool I utilize when I’m struggling with something in particular. I find that once I put pen to paper, my inner wisdom is able to come out and guide me in the direction I am supposed to go.

If you’re interested in starting a regular journaling practice it may seem overwhelming at first. Journaling does not have to be a taunting task- many times I simply start writing anything and everything that’s in my head. No judgments on what I’m writing is allowed- I simply write until I feel the desire to stop. However, if you would prefer some direction, here are some prompts to assist in starting some of your very own journaling entries!

I am grateful for…

I admire the following 3 people because…

My body taught me today….

I wish someone would tell me….

Lessons I’ve learned recently have been…

What I would like to say “no” to more…

What I would like to say “yes” to more…

If I could tell my younger self something, I would tell him/her….


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Do you have a regular journaling practice? I’d love to hear what strategies have worked for you!


The light in me honors the light in you.

Cinnamon Pumpkin Warm Milk

The cooler temperatures have finally arrived and it looks like they’re here to stay!

As I mentioned in my previous post, I am currently on a healing journey after being diagnosed with Dyshidrotic eczema. On this healing journey, I’ve been examining the foods I eat and have been going back to basics. I feel my body is needing a massive reset due to the amount of inflammation it has been experiencing. Reducing this inflammation and preventing future flare-ups involves keeping things simple- my food, my commitments, my life in general. I am honoring my body and giving it what it is requesting of me.

Throughout this journey I will be sharing recipes, successes, and lessons with you! I have enjoyed playing with new recipes and finding so much pleasure in returning to basic foods. It’s amazing how quickly our sense of taste can change when we allow it to by integrating new foods into our diet.

I have felt called to utilize some Ayurvedic recipes to heal my body.  One recipe that I’ve really been loving is a warm pumpkin beverage that is based on Ayurvedic medicine. I can do another post devoted entirely to Ayurveda, but in general, Ayurveda is one of the world’s oldest and most sophisticated mind-body healing systems, originating from sages in India. Ayurveda is much more than the food you put in your body, but food is extremely important in how our mind, body, and spirit are balanced and connected.

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I have this warm milk beverage at the end of the evening, before bed. The combination of the pumpkin puree, cinnamon, and warmth are the perfect signal to my body that it’s time to rest and prepare to sleep. I have been struggling with difficulty falling asleep and staying asleep for several months now and this beverage has allowed me to sleep without any medication.

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SERVES 1

Ingredients:

1 1/4 cups milk of choice (I am a non-dairy consumer so I chose almond or coconut milk)
2 tbsp pumpkin puree
1 tsp cinnamon
1/2 tbsp fresh ginger, finely grated (about 1/2 inch piece of fresh ginger)
1 tsp pumpkin pie spice
1/2 tsp pure vanilla extract
1 tbsp coconut sugar (add more or less according to your desired sweetness)
1 tbsp coconut oil (optional)

Instructions:

  1. In small saucepan, combine all ingredients except coconut sugar. Bring to a simmer over medium heat. Simmer for 5 minutes, whisking occasionally, until completely heated.
  2. Optional: Froth with an electric frother.
  3. Pour contents into mug. Add coconut sugar for desired sweetness. Sprinkle with cinnamon. Drink warm.

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I find that the amount of coconut sugar my body craves is different each day so I save that step until the end. This is a lovely ritual to close each day. Do you have rituals to end each day? I’d love to hear them!

I look forward to sharing many more stories and recipes with you as the end of 2018 approaches! Let me know what you think of this recipe as well- I’d love your feedback!

 

The light in me honors the light in you.

An Apple A Day

My favorite time of year is upon us! I am beyond ready for sweaters, pumpkins, cool weather, and new fall recipes.

This fall is also special for me because I will be beginning my Psychology of Eating program in October. I can’t help but feel like it’s back to school season. This program, in combination with me recently being diagnosed with Dyshidrotic Eczema, has started to challenge my beliefs about food. I feel I’m starting to utilize food in a new way – in a healing and medicinal way.

As a result of this recent revelation about my body’s need to heal, I have tried to implement a very basic and simplistic way to eating. It is up to each of us to tap into our own body’s wisdom throughout the (sometimes literal) seasons of life. And I feel my body asking for simplicity and grounding. I am honoring my body’s request by providing my body with simple foods that also re-connect me with the source of life – the Earth.

I recently purchased a juicer and have been having a blast playing around with some fun juice recipes – I can’t wait to share them with you soon!

One of the main components of my juices lately have been apples. Apples are in season at the moment, and my body has been craving them. They’re perfect for juicing because they balance out other veggies, such as celery, with some great sweetness. Since I’m currently loving apples, I want to share the numerous health benefits of these beauties. I think I’ll probably create a new series about the benefits of some of my go-to fruits and veggies.

So without further ado, here are some of the fabulous benefits of APPLES! Apples contain malic and tartaric acids, and these contribute to keep your body’s digestive system running at an optimum level. These acids keep food from fermenting in the stomach, allowing for better digestion. And the acids help the apple itself digest, but also aids in digesting other foods as well.

Speaking of digestive benefits – did you know that one apple has over 4 grams of fiber?! One great benefit of fiber, besides preventing colon cancer, is that it makes us feel fuller longer because it expands in the intestines and takes up volume.

Apples are also high in flavonoids, compounds that are thought to reduce the risk of cancer and heart disease. Most flavonoids are found in the skin of the apple, so to get the most benefit be sure to keep the skin on when consuming them. These flavonoids also act as antioxidants by destroying free radicals that are destructive to genes, as well as reducing inflammation throughout the body.

Overall, apples have numerous health benefits so eat up!

What are your favorite fruits and veggies?!

The light in me honors the light in you.